Includes bibliographical references (p. 257-285) and index.

Introduction: The gender police -- Social status wars -- Masculinity and white supremacy -- Violence against girls -- Gay bashing -- Girl bashing -- Cyber-bullying -- Adult bullies -- The bully economy -- America is from Mars, Europe is from Venus -- Creating kinder schools and cyberspaces -- Conclusion: From a bully society to compassionate communities.

In today's schools, kids bullying kids is not an occasional occurrence but rather an everyday reality where children learn early that being sensitive, respectful, and kind earns them no respect. The author makes the provocative argument that the rise of school shootings across America, and childhood aggression more broadly, are the consequences of a society that actually promotes aggressive and competitive behavior. This work is a call to reclaim America's schools from the vicious cycle of aggression that threatens our children and our society at large. Heartbreaking interviews illuminate how both boys and girls obtain status by acting "masculine", displaying aggression at one another's expense as both students and adults police one another to uphold gender stereotypes. The author shows that the aggressive ritual of gender policing in American culture creates emotional damage that perpetuates violence through revenge, and that this cycle is the main cause of not only the many school shootings that have shocked America, but also related problems in schools, manifesting in high rates of suicide, depression, anxiety, eating disorders, self-cutting, truancy, and substance abuse. After two decades working in schools as a school social worker and professor, the author proposes ways to transcend these destructive trends, transforming school bully societies into compassionate communities.